“Yelling at your loved one won’t solve anything, but it’ll make you feel really crappy later.” So good to remember this, whenever we are dealing with a loved one—or anyone—who is not TRYING to make our lives harder (even if that’s the result). Thanks for this reminder.
One thing I always stress is fir caregivers to find ways to take a break. You can get so worn out and lose patience when you don’t or can’t find ways to take care of the yourself. Trying to do everything by yourself … housework, personal care, checking at night to make sure they have not wandered off … is exhausting.
And the loneness not only for the person with dementia, it is also for the caregiver who frequently loses contact.
A woman whose husband had dementia told me that first you love the person you married then you love the person they become. I would wish that for everyone. Sigh
For sure!! I knew of the things that were going on with my grandmother, but my kids were young and I wasn't directly involved very much, so much of what I dealt with with my dad was new to me
Thanks for all of the information! My Dad currently likes to pick up leaves in his path on the way to get the morning paper. I think he believes in his own way he’s helping to clean up. lol
Another excellent article. I’m in a FB group for family members of dementia sufferers, and one of the phrases that comes up repeatedly is; “Meet them in their world. Don’t expect them to come to yours, they can’t” and I couldn’t put it any better
My husband has FTD. Before his diagnosis, before I understood he had dementia, we went through a period of several hard months where we were quarrelling constantly. Once I understood he had dementia I stopped arguing with him and trying to reason with him. Peace returned to our home. I believe it’s because his trust in me grew. I’m so thankful because I am hopeful that that foundation of trust will help as his disease progresses. This was an excellent article, Kirbie. Thank you.
Thank YOU! My mom continued to argue with Dad until the end. She never got it...that's why I'm dreading her decline so much. I fear it will be more of the same only worse. I'm so happy for you that you were able to figure it out and learn how to navigate it :)
“Yelling at your loved one won’t solve anything, but it’ll make you feel really crappy later.” So good to remember this, whenever we are dealing with a loved one—or anyone—who is not TRYING to make our lives harder (even if that’s the result). Thanks for this reminder.
I enjoyed this very much - and learned a great deal. Thank you for continuing to keep dementia in the forefront.
One thing I always stress is fir caregivers to find ways to take a break. You can get so worn out and lose patience when you don’t or can’t find ways to take care of the yourself. Trying to do everything by yourself … housework, personal care, checking at night to make sure they have not wandered off … is exhausting.
And the loneness not only for the person with dementia, it is also for the caregiver who frequently loses contact.
A woman whose husband had dementia told me that first you love the person you married then you love the person they become. I would wish that for everyone. Sigh
I couldn’t agree more! That’s coming in Part 2
great information. All the things we wish we knew in the beginning, eh?
For sure!! I knew of the things that were going on with my grandmother, but my kids were young and I wasn't directly involved very much, so much of what I dealt with with my dad was new to me
Thanks for all of the information! My Dad currently likes to pick up leaves in his path on the way to get the morning paper. I think he believes in his own way he’s helping to clean up. lol
That's great :) The more they stay active, the better!
Another excellent article. I’m in a FB group for family members of dementia sufferers, and one of the phrases that comes up repeatedly is; “Meet them in their world. Don’t expect them to come to yours, they can’t” and I couldn’t put it any better
Those facebook groups really are beneficial! I gained a lot from being in one
My husband has FTD. Before his diagnosis, before I understood he had dementia, we went through a period of several hard months where we were quarrelling constantly. Once I understood he had dementia I stopped arguing with him and trying to reason with him. Peace returned to our home. I believe it’s because his trust in me grew. I’m so thankful because I am hopeful that that foundation of trust will help as his disease progresses. This was an excellent article, Kirbie. Thank you.
Thank YOU! My mom continued to argue with Dad until the end. She never got it...that's why I'm dreading her decline so much. I fear it will be more of the same only worse. I'm so happy for you that you were able to figure it out and learn how to navigate it :)