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Te Reagan's avatar

I never had to have that conversation. My husband told me he couldn’t drive anymore. Told me he didn’t trust himself. He did this two years before being diagnosed with dementia.

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Kirbie Earley's avatar

It's always easier when they come to it on their own!

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Judi Bailey, M.Ed's avatar

Boy you tackled a rough one. This was a discussion held by Jenny, her brother and two sisters. I guess Jean had a rough time of it. She was fiercely independent. I was happy not to be a part of it. I was. There when they dismantled the stove. Then Jenny must have made 20 trips to re-teach Jean how to use the microwave.

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Kirbie Earley's avatar

Yeah I can see how that would be a problem. We were fortunate that Dad never did much cooking. I don't know how it will shake out as Mom declines. I do 99% of the cooking now.

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Carolyn Malone's avatar

While hearing is ideal for driving, deaf people do drive. It is legal for fully deaf people to drive in all 50 states. I wear 2 hearing aids and have a severe-to-profound hearing loss. While I can hear sirens, I can't tell from what direction the noise is coming from. I rely on my enhanced visual awareness and the better technology that is now available in newer cars. So I wouldn't automatically use hearing or lack of hearing as a metric for whether or not someone can drive. Sight is important, yes; you kind of have to see to drive. LOL. Hearing, no.

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Kirbie Earley's avatar

My parents both refuse(d) hearing devices. You are correct, however, it's something to consider. Especially if both are present.

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